Lately I have been doing a lot of thinking. One thing that has been on my mind for awhile is that grudges, well, they are the worst. They are full of hatred, self-loathing and self-pity, as well as pain. They can be deep rooted from years or generations of indoctrination or they are fresh, raw. No matter how long you kept them, you have got to let them go. If you do not, you are hindering any chance you have of healing.

Maybe you had been cheated on. Maybe you had been lied to or slighted. Whatever it is, make peace with yourself and those that have wronged you. If you hold onto the grudge, you do not bind up the wounds, you peel it open, feeling the sting of it all over again. At that point, the pain no longer comes from the original act but simply from you not letting go and revisiting the pain.

People make mistakes. We are going to get hurt. It’s life. Feel that pain, and get over it in your own time. However, do not nurse that pain and hold onto it longer than it needs to be; do not prolong your misery. Do not be your own worse enemy. Learn to forgive and forget.

One thing about me is I am trying my best to become a forgiving person. When it comes to relationship, I would never make the next woman who comes in my life pay for what the last one did to me. I’m not the one to hold grudges and then blame the whole female population for the pain one woman caused in my life.

Being the bigger person is hard. But it’s what you have to do. Life is too short to let things break. I know people fuck up all the time, and I know that people don’t even realise they are doing it sometimes, you have to let it go and move on.

Love your neighbor, love your enemy, and most of all love yourself.


“Liberate your true self by letting go of painful memories, fears, doubts, worries of the future, regrets, and grudges. This will create space in your life for the important and the meaningful.”